1. Silence is golden
If you ask someone a question and they avoid properly answering, maintain eye contact and keep silent. Just wait. You’ll eventually get the answer you want as people will keep on explaining if they think their answer is not enough.
2. Stop feeling anxious or nervous
The best way to let go of your anxiety and nervousness is to chew gum. Chewing gum makes your brain think you’re eating, and that there’s no dangerous situation. This is how you get your brain to think you’re relaxed.
3. Who likes who?
When you’re in a group and everyone is laughing, take a look at who’s looking at who. When you laugh, you instinctively look at the people you feel (or want to feel) closest to.
4. They know you believe in what you’re saying
Stop saying phrases like “I believe…” and “I think…” It’s already implied by the fact that you’re saying it. These phrases indicate a lack of confidence in what you’re saying, so stop saying them.
5. Keep your calm at all cost
When someone is trying to argue with you, just keep calm. They may end up getting more angry, but you’re training them to lose their tantrums by not reacting to them.
6. The way you act is the way you feel
Our emotions come with physical effects, and these physical expressions are triggered by the emotions we’re feeling. The good thing is this can be turned around. So if you want to start feeling happy, start smiling a lot.
7. Brilliance is confidence
It’s difficult to tell the difference between brilliance and confidence. If you act as though you know what you’re doing, people will think you’re good at it. So act confident and watch as people rally around you.
8. Even your interviewer is human
If you’re in a situation where you’re being interviewed, remember that the interviewer is human. Imagine that you are old friends with the interviewer. The results will be infections.
9. Be the one you want to see in others
If someone is showing behaviors you don’t like, it’s an opportunity to start behaving the way you want them to. The chances are you’re frustrated by them because they’re triggering something about yourself. They may even start modeling your new behaviors.
10. Lesser your chances to be attacked
If you are in a meeting and you expect that you’re going to be attacked by someone, sit right next to them. People feel less comfortable to attack someone they’re next to.
11. Let them see how they look like
If you work in customer service, put a big mirror behind you. People will automatically act nicer if they can see how they’re acting.
12. First ask for more, then ask for less
People are more likely to agree to a smaller favor if they’ve been asked for something larger first. So start with something larger to then agree on what you really want.
13. Why feel stressed, when you can feel exhilarated
Stress and exhilaration have the same physical symptoms (heavy breathing, increased heart rate). You could decide to look at a stressful situation as an exhilarating one.
14. Associate yourself with fun and excitement
When on a first date, take your date somewhere fun and exciting. The person will associate the feeling they get from their environment with you.
15. Eye contact is everything
Next time you’re with someone, try noticing their eye color. Not just “brown”, “blue” but all of the different colors in their eyes. The increased eye contact will have the person liking you even more.